I don’t feel loved or understood by my family
- Brainstorm/research some fulfilling habits you can do to ples: gardening, cooking, sewing, DIY crafts, or reading. All of these can provide a sense of purpose or fulfillment that others can’t quite provide.
I hate my parents.
A harder truth: If you were raised by abusive parents, they might have brainwashed you to feel like they’re always good and that bad things are always your fault.
This can leave you feeling like there’s no reason for your bad feelings toward them, and can consequently increase feelings of guilt, resentment, and anger that have no outlet.
Most often when we believe there is something inherently wrong with us, it’s because of the messages our parents sent in childhood.
And if you’re stuck in your situation, we totally get it and know that just letting off steam may be your only solution right now. We would love to help you vent out these conflicting feelings.
Maybe your parents aren’t narcissists, but that doesn’t mean they’re without their fair share of issues. Fortunately, there are some things you can do to feel less like there’s something wrong with you, even when your family isn’t the most supportive.
Find other ways to connect with your family.
Maybe communication isn’t the best, but can you increase quality time? Quietly watching TV with your mom might be better than nothing. And who knows — with more time spent together, maybe the talking part becomes a little easier.
Find others to listen.
If your parents can’t be there for you in the way you need, find other support networks. Friends, grandparents, social media, or online support groups usually do the trick.
Be ok with some separation.
But it’s easy to forget the flipside: you’re also an individual. The only person you owe anything to is yourself. Your family can jumpstart your growth and development, but the rest is up to you.
I can’t get over my ex.
Everybody moves on differently, but there are some things you can do to help yourself through the process. Balance indulgence and self-care. Listen to sad music; eat some ice cream; go for a walk through the park. Talk it out with someone.
Once you’ve allowed yourself some grieving time, start thinking of some of the good things that come from your breakup.
Or remember that butterflies-in-your-tummy feeling you get when you first meet someone new? Not only do you have that waiting for you, but also more time for your friends and your hobbies.
You also have the freedom to live life the way you want, on your own timeline. And soon enough, someone else will join you on that journey.
I can’t find a significant other.
Don’t be afraid to approach someone at the grocery store (as long as you do it respectfully). Join clubs and meet people. Take a class. Or, join one of many dating apps that suit different individual needs.
Remember to be patient, and make sure your other relationships (with family, friends, and loved ones) are being nurtured in the meantime.
When you do meet someone, don’t be afraid to tell them how you feel. Too often we are so scared to take a risk that we lose our chance — as Wayne Gretzky (and Michael Scott) famously said, You miss 100% of the shots you don’t take.
How to tell someone how you feel
Telling someone how you feel is perhaps one of the most anxiety-filled, but also exciting, experiences in life. Luckily, there are ways to manage the anxiety and remember you are great nothing is wrong with you.