I just realized that it wasn’t going to happen on his end
I’m not going to put energy toward someone who’s not completely interested, but I’m also not going to sit back and wait for things to come to me
He had no idea [I was interested], and I don’t know if it would have ever happened if I didn’t make a move. So I thought, What do I have to lose? If you want something, go after it. You write your own story.»
«Colin was in my first-year psychology class. I think there were 300 students in the class, and my girlfriends and I dubbed him ‘hot psych boy.’ At the campus bar one night, I was telling my friend Dave about him. As I told the story, Colin walked down the stairs. My friend said, ‘You mean this guy?’ Dave knew him, so he introduced us and we chatted that night for about an hour. After the next psychology class, I waited outside the door to say hi, and Colin was like, ‘Uh…do I know you?’ He’d totally forgotten me. We were friends for almost a year before I made a physical move. I cornered him at a party and said, ‘I want to kiss you. I don’t know if you know this, but I totally have a crush on you.’
I’m not going to put energy toward someone who’s not completely interested, but I’m also not going to sit back and wait for things to come to me
He had no idea [I was interested], and I don’t know if it would have ever happened if I didn’t make a move. So I thought, What do I have to lose? If you want something, go after it. You write your own story.»
«I once asked a guy out, and he agreed to go on one coffee date with me, but said he wasn’t really looking for anything at the time. So we had our date, and I left it at that. It’s hard to avoid rejection, but I want to follow through on things that I feel will be worth the effort and [fear of rejection]. Sometimes just straight-up asking is the only way you will find out if they’re truly interested in you.»
«I once asked a guy out, and he agreed to go on one coffee date with me, but said he wasn’t really looking for anything at the time. So we had our date, and I left it at that. It’s hard to avoid rejection, but I want to follow through on things that I feel will be worth the effort and [fear of rejection]. Sometimes just straight-up asking is the only way you will find out if they’re truly interested in you.»
«I met my partner on a dating app. I wasn’t really into doing the whole messaging-back-and-forth-for-weeks-before-meeting thing, so I decided to take a chance and invite him out, right then, to my friend’s birthday party. We ended up staying after everyone left, facing one another on bar stools and leaning in to talk because it was loud. The feeling of wanting to kiss him just came over me, so I placed my bets thinking he e went for it. I didn’t even waste time second guessing myself or worrying about rejection: You have to take those fleeting opportunities when they hit you. It’s been almost two years since then, and I’ve never looked back.»
«I met my partner on a dating app. I wasn’t really into doing the whole messaging-back-and-forth-for-weeks-before-meeting thing, so I decided to take a chance and invite him out, right then, to my friend’s birthday party. We ended up staying after everyone left, facing one another on bar stools and leaning in to talk because it was loud. The feeling of wanting to kiss him just came over me, so I placed my bets thinking he e went for it. I didn’t even waste time second guessing myself or worrying about rejection: You have to take those fleeting opportunities when they hit you. It’s been almost two years since then, and I’ve never looked back.»