It sounds as though your relationship has been filled with disrespectful actions
It’s been a year now with maybe sex once
directly after she sense that this time it’s real, and that i won’t change my mind any more she starts again crying and promising for changing and telling me she loves me and that we went thru a lot in our relationship to quit now.
please i need advice on what to do, I’m confused again, i love her and she say she loves me but i don’t trust her action, and I’m extremely unhappy and lost
You have made a decision to end the relationship. Take this time to determine what you want for the future of this relationship. Speak directly and honestly with her about your thoughts and feelings. Give her an opportunity to share herself with you as well. Have a great day, Marcel!
It could be a bad sign. It is clear that the two of you need to have a discussion. Take this time to determine what you want for the future of this relationship. Speak directly and honestly with her about your thoughts and feelings. Allow her to share herself with you as well. Have a great day, Chris!
I don’t wont to feel guilty losing or leaving my love of my life by not waiting for her to get better though
Most of these signs are the same with my wife but she has anxiety about commitments and I see she is suffering with no self esteem lately either. She thinks she’s ugly and old now even though I tell her she’s not. She’s so worried about what people think of her now she’s letting go of real life (and me). We are both 40, been married 7 years and she won’t have children with me as she’s scared it’s like an end to her childhood. she won’t have sex with me anymore too. She says she’s now asexual. She says she has no sex drive and feels strange about intimacy with me. She can’t even look in my eyes without feeling sad. What is confusing is she says not just with me she doesn’t want sex but with anyone and I believe this. She hasn’t even used her vibrator in a year herself which she liked so I know it’s true. I’m worried it will become too late to have children or real love as I’m getting older too. She says shes maybe depressed and has gone though trauma at work (she was bullied for many months) and it making her want to escape life and anything emotional, good or bad. It’s a year now after this trauma but all she does is go away on work trips and spend time with her friends abroad after work trips trying to escape our reality, and is away for many weeks at a time (she’s not having an affair I know this, she just uses work abroad as a way to escape life). But I think she does really has post trauma stress so I stay in this sexless relationship hoping things will get better one day when she become less depressed with herself. Problem is, deep inside I know maybe she will not get better, and I think she only loves me like a good friend now, but I need more than that. We went councilling a few times together so I know it hurts her too. She really is a good soul who cares for me (but can’t give me the love I deserve) and she is suffering with this post trauma anxiety, but I am also suffering from lack of intimacy… I don’t know what to do. I am left at home with the dog to keep me company and feel sad she doesn’t love me enough to want to try to save alone again for Christmas while she is abroad visiting her family.