She was very squirmy on the second set and many times let out an “Ow!
I reminded her how beautiful she was and how much we loved her and were happy to have her as part of the family
” She didn’t cry but was teary eyed. We did our aftercare and all was forgiven. As has been our process with Kayla, I asked her how she felt about me spanking her. At first she gave the typical, “Fine.” I asked her to “elaborate.” If you read the prior post, when Kayla is asked to “elaborate” it means she has one more chance at expressing herself or will be spanked. Her response showed frustration as it was something like, “Okay, I feel okay with it. So of course I am okay with it.”
I didn’t like her answer and told her to pull her pants back down. I gave her 25 by hand. She was now crying. I held her for a bit and then asked her again how she felt about it. She said her initial feeling was that it was unfair. But she didn’t want to say those words because she knows it was fair, but still couldn’t help feeling that it wasn’t. Her phone is fairly new and she had already broken one recently and didn’t want the grief of breaking another. She also felt that 30 with the spoon was too much and they were too hard, and then to get the 25 by hand on top of that. Add to that the embarrassment of getting spanked by me for the first time and how angry I looked and it was all too much.
Now, before the SRC (Submissive Rules Committee) imposes a fine for allowing a submissive to question a punishment, let me remind you SRC members that Kayla has special dispensation to do so. We encourage her to let out her feelings, unfiltered, unedited (except no cussing), and “in the moment” until such time it seems appropriate to do otherwise.
I thanked her for being open and honest and told her I was pleased that she opened up. I purposely didn’t try to address any specific issue such as her trying to justify the cussing due to concerns of the phone breaking, or for me to try to justify or apologize for how I spanked her. Those are not the issue, and she knows it. It isn’t about trying to “score” her reasons on some rationalization table. It is simply about allowing her to vent, accepting her rant without judgement, and moving on. In other words, validate her feelings, independent of whether the facts are valid.
Like, of course you are going to spank me and yes I deserved it
The release of emotions made her cry even more and I held her for some time until she calmed down. Surprisingly, she then asked me how I felt about being the spanker versus the spankee. In a joking tone I said, “Fine,” upon which she jokingly responded, “Elaborate.”
It felt good – better than I had anticipated. I both experienced it as Kayla and as Mike. I experienced it as Kayla in-so-much as when I see any spanking I relate to the spankee. I feel a bit of the sting and endorphin rush that they are feeling. I feel their submission and I identify with that submission. In this case, I identified with Kayla but also with Mike. The sensation of the spoon on my hand, or my hand on her buttocks, was new. I’ve spanked Donna before but either in play or on behalf of John. My feelings surprised me as going in my thought was I would simply feel as if I was the submissive, spanking her because Mike allowed it. But no, in spanking Kayla I was not just doing as a Dom asked, I was the Dom. In addition, I was not just anyone’s Dom, I was Kayla’s. That means a lot to me. I jokingly said, “Is that sufficient elaboration.” Kayla responded, “Yes, Ma’am, it is.”