The goal of exploring how to make yourself squirt and whether or not you can squirt isn’t to squirt
What If You Didn’t Squirt?
So if learning how to squirt is all you hoped it would be: Hooray! You found something new you can enjoy. If urethral sponge stimulation felt good but didn’t make you squirt, that’s great too. Heck, even if internal stimulation didn’t feel all that great for you that’s okay, too — you’re one step closer to knowing exactly what your body likes.
«It’s fun to try new techniques and see what you respond well to,» says Melancon. «But it’s not fun at all to put pressure on yourself to have a particular type of sexual response.»
Despite sex educators, sex journalists (hi!), and Netflix’s Sex Education’s best efforts to demystify human sexuality and fill in the gaps of sex education, there are some very normal things about bodies that are still shrouded in mystery. One of those things on most pleasure-seekers’ lists? Squirting.
«Most people have, at one point, gone to Google to ask ‘how to squirt,’ ‘how to make yourself squirt,’ or ‘what is squirting’ only to leave even more confused,» says sociologist and clinical sexologist Sarah Melancon, Ph.D., with The Sex Toy Collective.
That’s exactly why she and sex educator Lola Dean, who holds the world record for volume squirting — seriously, 1250mL in 25 seconds — are going deep on the subject. Below, they explain what squirting is and how to make yourself squirt, plus whether it’s actually possible for everyone.
So What Is Squirting, Exactly?
Before diving into what squirting is and how to squirt, let’s pause for a quick anatomy lesson. «Vulva-owners have something called a urethral sponge — colloquially known as the G-spot or Skene’s gland — 2 to 3 inches inside the vaginal canal along the front wall,» explains Melancon. Sometimes, when vulva-owners get super-duper aroused, this fills up with fluid. When this fluid expels out of the body through the urethra, that’s squirting. (More on what that fluid is, coming up.)
If you’ve ever found yourself watching XXX-rated footage, you might mistakenly think that every time someone squirts, fluid propels or gushes out of the body. And while that may be the case for some people, «some squirt leaks, drips, streams, or dribbles out of the body,» says Jean. (Related: Is Squirting the Same As Female Ejaculation?)
Is Squirting An Orgasm?
Not exactly. While sometimes squirting is called a «squirting orgasm,» Melancon says that they’re two different experiences and sensations. «While squirting can occur at the exact same time as an orgasm, some people squirt before they orgasm, some after, and some without orgasm at all,» she says. (See: 7 Different Types of Orgasms You Can Have)
While some people say it feels exactly like an orgasm, some say it feels similar (but different), and others don’t actually notice when they’re squirting at all.
For example, Sam B., 34, says she squirts nearly every single time she’s masturbating but only sometimes during partnered sex. «It’s different than an orgasm but still very, very pleasurable,» she says. «Squirting feels like a giant wave of energy leaving my body like a release, while orgasming feels more like an eruption of energy.»
Tucker N., 28, didn’t know they could squirt before dating their current girlfriend. «The only reason I know when I’ve squirted is that my girlfriend tells me I have and the bed is a little wetter after,» they say. «It happens at the same time as an orgasm for me so it’s trickier to tell.» (Related: I Tried Reddit’s Best Sex Advice — Here’s What Worked)