3. Why Do Some Men Enjoy Being Cuckolded?
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If you decide to go through with it, you’ll need pick a bull. Sometimes people want a random person, as a stranger is likely to come with less emotional connections than a close friend. «Some people prefer to have a stranger that they don’t know, and I think that’s related to fears about jealousy,» Dr. Powell says. «In terms of emotional and physical and social safety, I think it’s often preferable to bring in someone who you already trust.» But let’s slow down: Before you reach out to a third person, talk about it within the relationship. What do you want the scene to look like? Does the submissive partner get to watch, or do they want to be stuck at home, knowing their wife is out getting banged by another man? Do you already have a friend in mind? If you’re already involved in swinger groups, a play party scene, or a kink community, that’s the best place to find someone to play with. If you’re brand new to the lifestyle, or live in a small town without access to kink scenes that exist in places such as New York and San Francisco, the kinky social media FetLife is a wonderful resource to explore and meet other people with the same sexual interests as you.
5. Is Cuckolding Safe ?
Whether it’s a trusted friend, acquaintance from a kink scene, or person you met on FetLife, you should talk about barriers and safe sex. Often in committed relationships, both partners have been tested, know one another’s status, and do not use condoms. At the risk of sounding like a health teacher, if you can’t ask your bull about their most recent STI screening, they probably aren’t the right bull for you. «The thing about sex is that there’s no such thing as risk-free sex at all. When we make sexual decisions what we’re looking at is what are the risk that we are assuming, and are we able to accept that risk?» Dr. Powell says. «You need to have a good conversation with them about their STI status, the last time they were tested, and what kind of barriers they use generally for sex.» She notes that however you go about barrier use is ultimately up to all the parties involved, but communication, consent, and knowledge of the risks are crucial.
While most STIs simply require a visit to a clinic and a prescription for antibiotics, whenever you bring someone new into your relationship, there are emotional risks that may be even more severe. «The general rule in relationships is that whenever you try something new, there is going to be unexpected emotions,» Dr. Powell says. Before you cuckold, talk with your partner, and your bull, about what you all want out of the experience and boundaries. Goddess Aviva advises creating safe words so you can stop the scene at any minute. She also stresses the importance of aftercare, or taking care of one another after the play ends, and discussing what you liked and what could be improved. You may try it and decide it’s not for you. Or, you may open an entire new world of possibilities, far beyond what any troll on Twitter could create by using «cuck» as an insult. «Cuckolding is definitely for the sexually open-minded, but if done with the proper intentions, it can bring a couple closer together,» Goddess Aviva says.
If you decide to go through with it, you’ll need pick a bull. Sometimes people want a random person, as a stranger is likely to come with less emotional connections than a close friend. «Some people prefer to have a stranger that they don’t know, and I think that’s related to fears about jealousy,» Dr. Powell says. «In terms of emotional and physical and social safety, I think it’s often preferable to bring in someone who you already trust.» But let’s slow down: Before you reach out to a third person, talk about it within the relationship. What do you want the scene to look like? Does the submissive partner get to watch, or do they want to be stuck at home, knowing their wife is out getting banged by another man? Do you already have a friend in mind? If you’re already involved in swinger groups, a play party scene, or a kink community, that’s the best place to find someone to play with. If you’re brand new to the lifestyle, or live in a small town without access to kink scenes that exist in places such as New York and San Francisco, the kinky social media FetLife is a wonderful resource to explore and meet other people with the same sexual interests as you.
The hotwife may have several other male partners that she sleeps with on her own without the husband present. For the hotwife, the experience is often one of dominance, worship, and power. «As the woman doing the cuckolding, it can be very exciting and empowering to have a different sexual partner, especially when your man is fully in support of you having a wonderful experience,» says Goddess Aviva, a New York City-based professional and lifestyle dominatrix.
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