It really covers, actually-love is messy, and infidelity, even more so
LEWIS HOWES: Wow. Make sure you guys get it. You can go to estherperel as well to learn more about all your programs-the book is on Amazon, Barnes Noble, everywhere else. The State of Affairs.
LEWIS HOWES: Where Should We Begin? Download the podcast. I think it’s had over 6 million downloads on Audible already, and it’s coming out on iTunes right now. Download it because it’s sessions where you do two or three hour sessions with another couple.
And have your loved ones at least
LEWIS HOWES: So the half hour podcast sessions where you did three-hour sessions with couples who are anonymous. Their names are anonymous.
ESTHER PEREL: But real life, unscripted sessions. You just enter in the midst and you get to watch and listen and actually realize that you’re in front of the view on mirror.
LEWIS HOWES: Amazing, so make sure you guys get that. Also at the end of this, there’s going to be information afterwards about how you can get a free copy of Esther’s book because I bought a bunch of them, so we’re going to be doing a little special package. So stay tuned on that information at the very end. I want to ask you a couple final questions. I think I asked you the last time, but I’m going to ask you again. This is called The Three Truths. So if this was the last day for you many years from now and you’ve achieved everything you’ve ever wanted to achieve. You’ve written all the books, podcast, videos, speeches, and yet for whatever reason, it was all erased. All your content was gone and you had a piece of paper and a pen to write down three things you need to be true about all the experiences in your life. These lessons would be all what people have to remember of you. What would you say are your three truths?
ESTHER PEREL: Oh, I would love one of them to include all the people who think their lives have been changed by working with me, reading me, interacting with me. For whom I really-when people come to tell me that today, I just think, “If one day I die and a lot of people walk around this planet and just say, ‘She changed my life because I was stuck or she saved my marriage-‘” I went dancing recently and these people just literally showed up on the pier and just like, “You don’t know us but you’ve changed our marriage, you’ve changed our life. And I’m like, [gasps].
We talk about jealousy, we talk about vengeance, we talk about sex, we talk about monogamy, we talk about heartbreak, we talk about shitty things people do to each other, we talk about guilt, we talk about being accountable and not ghosting each other in [inaudible] ways
ESTHER PEREL: Yes, yes, yes. You judge people by their actions. That’s one [inaudible] how decent are they, and that has very little do with how much money they have, how much dedication, or which political party they belong to. It’s really the kindness of strangers. You have no idea who can one day be the one who shows up for you. It’s just the humanity, it’s not what they stand for and represent. That to me is probably one of the most important-it changes every time you look at people. It keeps you open and curious because you have no idea. They may look like whatever and-that’s one, Know where you come from. Always remember where you come from. Doesn’t mean that you stay stuck there, but it is the source. We only have one source, each and everyone of us. And never forget that identity.